"Ministers’ Minute"
Volume I Number 7
DOWN BUT NOT OUT!
OPEN: This guy has been fired by some pretty good teams. The New York Mets canned him in 1981. The Atlanta Braves gave him the boot in 1984. The St. Louis Cardinals terminated him in 1995. (As a Cards’ fan, I’m still a little disappointed in that fact.)
His personal life hasn't always been easy either. He grew up in a home where he experienced verbal abuse from his father and in which his mother had to endure physical abuse. In Joe's words, his father "often terrorized our home with his out-of-control rages. He wielded his anger as a terrible weapon." Maybe these same adversities help account for the fact that he is what sports writers call a "player's manager." While the term is sometimes negative and points to a soft manager who can't really command enough respect to lead his players, it connotes something quite different in his case. Essentially, it means that he has committed himself to respecting his players, never humiliating them before fans or one another, and refraining from clubhouse tantrums.
Yes, Joe Torre's Yankees won the 2000 World Series -- New York's first subway series since 1956. It's something of a miracle that he's still in baseball, much less completing his fourth title in five years as leader of the New York Yankees.
He admits to having a hard time with coaches or managers who use threats and screaming outbursts to intimidate players. All the yelling and threats in his early home life created an aversion to that sort of behavior. "I developed the strong moral sense that people should be civil to each other at home and in the workplace," he writes in the book Joe Torre's Ground Rules for Winners.
When things weren't going well for his team in 2000 -- like when they
lost 13 of 16 games at the end of the season -- the Yankees were being written
off by lots of people as league champs and World Series contenders. Torre didn't
panic. He didn't attack his players for lackluster performances. He said
he trusted them to give their best and would deal with the outcome.
The
childhood trauma in his family, being fired three times, having his competence
challenged in the press, a battle with prostate cancer -- all these seem to have
combined to teach one of baseball's most successful managers something you could
wish everyone knew: Winning is important, but it is even more critical to
preserve one's integrity by treating others with respect.
Everyone has
"stuff" in his or her background. It doesn't have to make us bitter and be
our undoing.
HERE IS THE POINT: We control our response to circumstances, even circumstances that are against us! It is your Attitude, not your aptitude that determines your altitude! Your thinking, your faith, those are the factors that outweigh circumstances and adversity!
Life is characterized by choices. We all face adversity. We’ve all had disadvantages. When we make our choices, some choices will be good; some choices will be poor. You will fail but you are not a failure because of this.
Thomas A. Edison recorded 1,093 patents. Most of these inventions were impractical or unmarketable. They were failures. But a man who invented the phonograph, the mimeograph, and the electric light bulb could afford a lot of failures. He was so inept in business matters that he lost control of the profitable companies that he founded, and yet in the depths of the depression, he is said to have died with an estate of $2,000,000. Edison was a successful failure. It is obvious that you learn as you fail. You also grow as you fail, but you must dare to try, and when you fail, don’t conclude you are a failure, but TURN TO GOD!
Proposition: We all experience failures but we don't
have to be defeated by them.
Let us look at two men of God and how they
responded to failure. As we review a portion of their lives we will discover the
proper response to failure.
I. The Godly Sorrow of Peter
First, let’s look at how He Went from the Heights to the Depths in SEVEN verses!
Matthew 16:16-23 We go from the The Good Confession - Godly insight -
16:16,17 - to the The Bad Obsession - Satanic influence -
16:21,22
The Encouraging news is this: Peter’s Successful
Response to Failure was 3 R’s. Let’s track it.
1. Remorse
Matt 26:75 Then Peter remembered the word Jesus had spoken: "Before the rooster crows, you will disown me three times." And he went outside and wept bitterly. (NIV)
2. Recommitment
John 21:15 When they had finished eating, Jesus said to Simon Peter, "Simon son of John, do you truly love me more than these?" "Yes, Lord," he said, "you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Feed my lambs."
16 Again Jesus said, "Simon son of John, do you truly love me?" He answered, "Yes, Lord, you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Take care of my sheep."
17 The third time he said to him, "Simon son of John, do you love me?" Peter was hurt because Jesus asked him the third time, "Do you love me?" He said, "Lord, you know all things; you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Feed my sheep.
18 I tell you the truth, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go."
19 Jesus said this to indicate the kind of death by which Peter would glorify God. Then he said to him, "Follow me!" (NIV)
3. Redemptive Living
Peter came back to stand courageously for Christ! The Day of Pentecost and the persecution that followed:
II. The Worldly Sorrow example of Judas
Judas’s Response To Failure
1. Remorse - Matthew 27:3a
2. Restitution - Matthew 27:3b,4
3. Suicide - Matthew 27:5; Acts 1:18
III. Paul's Contrast of "Godly" and "Worldly" sorrow
Illustrated By Peter and Judas
1. Sorrow is not repentance but CAN and SHOULD lead to it.
2. Remorse is good, but only fruitful if it leads to repentance.
3. Repentance is a change of mind that leads to a change of conduct
We will all have weak moments in our walk with Jesus. We will all fail Christ sometime in our lifetime. He will always attempt to call us back to Him. We can come back! God desires all to come to repentance. What can we do? Turn away from sin and back to God!
I Jn 1:8-9 If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. (NIV)
What does God do? Forgives and forgets - 1 John 1:9b. When we feel that we have failed and we may think that we have gone beyond the point of no return, God calls us to confess our sins (acknowledge our sin and need for Him). If we are born again, blood bought, baptized believers, He promises to forgive us of our sins and to cleanse us from all our unrighteousness. Key word: ALL. We are never failures because we have failed but are failures if we quit rather than face another failure. The crowing of the rooster lets us know that we have failed but does not indicate that we are failures. We are only failures when we fail to see our stumbling as a wake up call and do nothing about it or think that we are beyond hope.
CLOSE: When he was 10 years old he was kicked in the head by a horse and experts now believe that the skull was severely fractured, leaving him with lifelong problems. He failed in business in 1831, was defeated for the legislature in 1832. The next year he suffered another business defeat and in 1836 had a nervous breakdown. He failed to be elected speaker in 1838, was defeated for elector in 1840, and for Congress in 1843, as well as in 1848. He failed to be elected to the Senate in 1855, and was defeated for the Vice Presidency in 1856 and for the Senate in 1858. He was a man seemingly marked for failure, a man suffering from melancholy, who endured long periods of depression throughout his life. He could barely see out of one eye. He had frequent nervous attacks, severe headaches, indigestion and nausea. He had a couch placed near his desk in the White House so he could quickly lie down when one of his spells came over him. When he came to deliver the now famous address at Gettysburg, he was coming down with smallpox. However, being elected President in 1860, he could afford all those failures. Abraham Lincoln was truly a successful failure.
HOW ABOUT YOU? READY TO GIVE UP?
BE LIKE PETER, TURN BACK TO CHRIST AND FIND THE GRACE AND MERCY MORE THAN ADEQUATE TO ERASE YOUR MISTAKES AND PUT YOU BACK ON THE STRAIGHT AND NARROW ROAD TO SUCCESS!
Rod Farthing
ARM International Development
Director
"Remain faithful unto death .." Rev.
2:10B